Sunday, October 31, 2010
Hallowe'en is my all time favorite time of the year. This year I decided to dress up as one of favorite animals and fashion statements - the zebra! I got some ideas for hair and makeup off you tube, and ordered a zebra unitard of eBay. I used real horseh air for the tail, and it came together nicely. Hope everyone had a safe and fun Hallowe'en with lots of goodies.
Thursday, October 28, 2010
You know the name of the game - gossip. There is a reason for high school - and it's not education. High school is a 4 year hiatus for developing social skills at a time when you are too old to play with clay and blocks - but too stupid to learn the real things you learn at University or college. One of the greatest skills I would hope one achieves at high school is how to tolerate, and evaluate, gossip.
I'm not going to lie, I love my fair share of gossip here and there. I like to think it's harmless gossip between myself and trusted friends. "Oh my god, did you like, see what Psycho Sally put as her Facebook status?" "I know, she is like, totally, attention seeker" (complete with valley girl accent and gum smacking). I however, did learn over my time on earth so far that gossip can spread like wildfire, hurt people, and come back to give you a swift kick in the ass. You can never be sure just what you are saying to who. You can never be sure who to trust with your opinions and judgements, so sometimes it's just better to keep your opinion to yourself.
It reminds me of my first day of OAC (grade 13) Geometry. I was ahead 2 years in math so I didn't really know any of the people in my classes, most of them were super smart super nerds and didn't attend the parties I found myself at most weekends. I took my seat beside this one guy Jim. Jim thought the greatest way to break the ice and become my friend would be to tell me a joke. Normally, under regular circumstances I might think this was the perfect tactic. Unfortunately for Jim, he didn't use his social skills diary and check the rules before he blurted out his joke. *Warning* This joke may offend some readers* I can't remember the lead up to the joke, but Jim blurts out; "why did God invent AIDS?"......"to kill all the gay people!", followed by "ahahah". I just sat there and stared at him. I get it, he was *joking*. He doesn't really think that, or hate gay people, he just thought it was a funny (albeit tasteless) joke. What Jim didn't know was that I had an uncle who was gay, and tragically, died of AIDS (what are the chances right?). I proceeded to share this information with Jim. I will never forget the look on his face. That was the moment Jim learned that you should know and evaluate your audience.
For the record, Jim and I did become great friends after that first meeting, but I always think of that before I open my mouth when a controversial subject is brought up. I am sort of going off topic here but I think it's a good example of how people just blab without thinking. The whole point of this post was to rant about the gossiping that has been happening about my new marriage.
I was talking to my soon to be ex brother in law the other night and he had mentioned how a lot of people have been coming up to him at the gym and asking him if I really got married. I live in a small town which I left years ago, and now that I am back I try to hide my presence to anyone but my friends - because we all know small towns are notorious for gossip and nosey neighbour behaviour! Anyways, I guess he is getting all sorts of questions from; who my husband is, where we met, how long we have been together....to the expected comments of; it will never last, like she will stay married long, and even "there's no way that guy will ever like horses!" For real, someone actually said that. Ummm hello...wtf?? You don't know anything about my man, yet you know there's no way he will like horses and I will leave him because of that? Good grief. I'm 27 not 7. I have dated enough to know what it feels like to have found the right man.
Now let's not forget the most popular comment/question; "Are you/is she pregnant?". Umm hello?!?! Do you even know me at ALL?!?! I would NEVER get married just because I was pregnant. All of my friends know that. That is not a reason to get married in my eyes, and when people ask that it just shows who they are to me and I wonder why they even bother caring. I find it extremely insulting and wonder where these peoples social skills are. I have even had people say that they didn't even know I had a boyfriend. Well, I have news for you, it wasn't a secret. If you didn't know, then we aren't the close friends you think we are. Why are you surprised you didn't know? Because I didn't flaunt it in everyones faces for the last few months?
The thing that I just don't get about these people....is why not just ask me? Most of them I have on Facebook or they are friends of friends and could easily shoot me a message. Why must you ask my brother in law. Is it because you don't want me to know you have some sort of unexplainable interest in my life? Is it because you want to not worry about me hearing your judgemental comments? Is it because you secretly want my world to fall apart and don't want to have to be fake to me? Why....is my only question.
There is , however, something great that happens when you act of out the ordinary or expected. You learn who people really are. People who I have not spoken to in some time, or people I do not know that well have given me well wishes, encouragement, and support in our marriage. Then there are the people who I have been friends with for years who have not offered any well wishes, and just claimed they are shocked, and happy if "you're happy". One of my friends I have known forEVER just said - "why?". I didn't even justify that with an answer. It is as if people can not accept anything that does not fit into their cookie cutter idea of how a relationship comes together.
I have news for these people; I am happy. I am also happy to answer any questions you nosies may have (people who know me, not my readers although happy to answer yours too). And one last thing....he DOES like horses. So there.
Monday, October 25, 2010
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Friday, October 22, 2010
Let me tell you another thing about my profession; my position makes me pretty much the second most hated person out there, right below the Government. I am an Insurance broker. What makes us so hated?? Well, people have no choice but to insure (in Canada at least). It is the law you must have insurance to drive a vehicle and to have a mortgage. The only time our clients call is to inquire about rate increases, or when they are involved in a claim and are high stress and upset. This makes for a magical work environment (sarcasm? Yes).
Thursday, October 21, 2010
Archie is no exception to this. Here he is at the dressage barn he was boarding at in 2009. He loooves his coffee.
Notice he looks slightly more wired the more coffee he drinks :)
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
Sunday, October 17, 2010
We took advantage of this gorgeous October weekend and met up with some friends of my moms to go for a nice Sunday hack. They knew about a private beach where they go hacking regularly and were going to let us in on their little gem of a secret spot.
Archie has only been off the property a few times for lessons, and has never hacked out in a group so this was going to be a good exercise for him to get him used to being away from home and around strange horses.
We loaded the horses up and met up at my moms friends place. They have a bunch of young Appys and Quarter Horses they were going to be taking out. Archie walked right on the trailer today, which was great. He has come a long way with getting on the trailer. He still gets nervous and sweats himself out completely on the ride though. He seems to be getting better with each trailer ride, so hopefully he will lose those nerves completely with time.
The trails on the way to the beach were fabulous. All the leaves on the ground create a beautiful sight. Not to mention those pretty spotted bums we were following. Archie finds it a bit difficult to walk at the same pace as a 15 h Quarter horse, but he tries.
Our first look as we arrive at the beach. I am so in love with this October day I could just fall off my horse and die. I musnt do that though, I must get to the beach!
I do love a good Appy bum ...
Here we navigating the first sand dune. The horses all go down and up the dunes with ease. The blue roan in the middle is 25 years old. She was such a superstar, you would never know she was such on oldie.
We're getting so close to the beach!! The waves were crashing with the wind, Archie knew something was up there, but he just didn't know what exactly. My moms horse saw the water at first and wanted nothing of it.... we will press on however. We are not quitters!
Heres my mom, happy to have made it this far with her second level dressage horse. Good job mom, I'm proud of you!
My mom and I posing for pictures. Archies lovely dried sweat from his trailer ride. He will get super grooming when he gets home.
And again. I am so lucky to share this passion with my mom. We may enjoy different disciplines, but we are working hard at making our horses more versatile so we can have more fun with them aside from competing. I think today was a great accomplishment of that.
On the way to the second private beach. The beaches go forever, how did we never know this was so close to our home!
Archie checking in to make sure he's still going the right way.
Archie and I attempting to pose for pictures....he was too excited to stand still at this point.
Time to get our feet wet....
Are you kidding me?? This beach looks like the Caribbean! This is my new favorite spot...what a beautiful example of our province.
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